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graham4anything
QUOTE(jgoutwest @ Feb 11 2005, 06:05 PM)
This is beautiful - and what it should all be about!

Pro-Life, pro-choice, pro-solution, or whatever - it all should mean LESS gov't interference!  You want them out of your bedroom, then stop asking for them to pay for solutions when problems arise...you can not have it both ways!  Bush wants to send this, and other issues to that state level - let him do it!  Get him AND the gov't the hell out of it!
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trouble with sending it to states-

You will have 10 states where it is legal
You will have 30 states right away illegal
Soem will take a while to decide

Red/Blue situation (red-no abortions, blue-legal)

And, doesn't that mean people in red states would again be disenfranchised based on how much money they have, because they cannot travel to a blue state
because they have no money to get a legal one?

And therefore, it is back to start, with illegal , back alley butcherings

It all comes down to money and it is wrong.
jgoutwest
QUOTE(graham4anything @ Feb 11 2005, 05:08 PM)
trouble with sending it to states-

You will have 10 states where it is legal
You will have 30 states right away illegal
Soem will take a while to decide

Red/Blue situation (red-no abortions, blue-legal)

And, doesn't that mean people in red states would again be disenfranchised based on how much money they have, because they cannot travel to a blue state
because they have no money to get a legal one?

And therefore, it is back to start, with illegal , back alley butcherings

It all comes down to money and it is wrong.
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ahhh - great points! Thanks!

hmmmm...Ok must think harder on this!
billfmsd
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 05:06 PM)
there will be some that will never come around to any pro-choice position.
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Ask those people how they feel about Pro-Responsibility.
starrygalore
QUOTE(billfmsd @ Feb 11 2005, 07:16 PM)
Ask those people how they feel about Pro-Responsibility.
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:D Look! We have a solution! lol.gif lol.gif
graham4anything
As it appears those that are against choice are because of religious reasons, I again say the democrats should play hardball and make a list of every single republican "sinner" out there and fight dirt with dirt

Cheating, stealing...we need to get people to realize the republicans
have a great many people who have "sinned" so to say.

As they already call us immoral at every turn, let's do it back to them.
Make posters with the word SINNER- and put Newt Gingrich on it
Do it for everyone and list why they sinned

That would show the hypocrites

And it would be time to re-educate the public to how many people were hurt and butchered in the old days before it was legal, and how the rich can go to Norway or Paris, and the "vile" New York or wherever their rich money and private jets can take them

Shift it to those terms

These fatcats like to say they are the heartland American-show the public they are not.
NiteOwl
Funding of abortions is not even a part of the abortion debate.... and don't allow people to make it one. It is merely a smokescreen / Red Herring they use to bolster their argument.

The fact that tax dollars may fund such procedures when they do not personally support it is no different than the tax dollars that are spent supporting hundreds... probably thousands... of programs that waste tax dollars for programs that a vast majority of us would disagree with. Do I (or you) like it that some of my tax dollars go to support things I oppose.. of course not.... but that's just the way it is.
so angry I could spit
Pro-Responsibilty: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions

Who can right a good mission statement?

oops, I think we've got it:
QUOTE(NiteOwl @ Feb 11 2005, 05:41 PM)
The freedom of choice... and the responsibility of that choice should rest with the individual.  This also carries with it the responsibility for ones actions.... having sex, use of birth control, being educated, seeking alternatives, considering the potential life that is being carried, living with the consequences of ones own actions and decisions, bearing the burden both emotionally and financially. 

Responsibility.  I'm all for it.
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so angry I could spit
QUOTE(NiteOwl @ Feb 11 2005, 06:21 PM)
Funding of abortions is not even a part of the abortion debate.... and don't allow people to make it one.  It is merely a smokescreen / Red Herring they use to bolster their argument. 

The fact that tax dollars may fund such procedures when they do not personally support it is no different than the tax dollars that are spent supporting hundreds... probably thousands... of programs that waste tax dollars for programs that a vast majority of us would disagree with.  Do I (or you) like it that some of my tax dollars go to support things I oppose.. of course not.... but that's just the way it is.
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Don't the same people keep complaining about their tax dollars going to lazy welfare mothers and their plethora of offspring?
NiteOwl
QUOTE(so angry I could spit @ Feb 11 2005, 05:22 PM)
Pro-Responsibilty: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions
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I like your extension of the "label"

It's REFRAMING TIME !!!

QUOTE(so angry I could spit @ Feb 11 2005, 05:23 PM)
Don't the same people keep complaining about their tax dollars going to lazy welfare mothers and their plethora of offspring?
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Yep... you're right. Again... they try to have it both ways.
Beamer
Have you all heard of the Putting Prevention First Act?


From Hillary's January 24th speech:

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One bill that provides a comprehensive approach to the problem of unintended pregnancies encapsulates many of these efforts. It's called "The Putting Prevention First Act." It provides a roadmap to the destination of fewer unwanted pregnancies -- to the day when abortion is truly safe, legal, and rare. The Putting Prevention First Act, which I was proud to co-sponsor in the last Congress, increases funding for Title X; expands Medicaid family-planning services to provide access for more low-income women; ensures that health plans that cover prescription drugs also cover prescription contraceptives; funds emergency contraception public-education campaigns for doctors, nurses and women; ensures that hospital emergency rooms offer emergency contraception to victims of sexual assault; and establishes the nation's first-ever federal sex-education program.

A very similar version of the Putting Prevention First Act is being introduced today, one of the first bills introduced by Minority Leader Harry Reid, to lay out the Democratic plan for women's reproductive healthcare. I am proud to be a co-sponsor of this bill and I will work very hard to see that it is enacted. Because I know we can make progress on these issues; the work of the Clinton Administration and so many others saw the rate of abortion consistently fall in the 1990's. The abortion rate fell by one-fourth between 1990 and 1995, the steepest decline since Roe was decided in 1973. The rate fell another 11 percent between 1994 and 2000, from about 24 to 21 abortions for every 1,000 women of childbearing age.

But unfortunately, in the last few years, while we are engaged in an ideological debate instead of one that uses facts and evidence and commonsense, the rate of abortion is on the rise in some states. In the three years since President Bush took office, 8 states saw an increase in abortion rates (14.6% average increase), and four saw a decrease (4.3% average), so we have a lot of work still ahead of us.

I think it's important that family planning advocates reach out to those who may not agree with us on everything to try to find common ground in those areas where, hopefully, emergency contraception, more funding for prenatal care and others can be a point of common ground.
graham4anything
I don't like the

living with the consequences of ones own actions

You put future guilt into the equation, which should not be there.

That could have harmful effects if one has an abortion. Same with
an adoption for that matter.

Because it is still the female who has this, not the male. Because the male could later just blame the female as they do anyhow.
NiteOwl
QUOTE(graham4anything @ Feb 11 2005, 05:31 PM)
I don't like the

living with the consequences of ones own actions

You put future guilt into the equation, which should not be there.

That could have harmful effects if one has an abortion. Same with
an adoption for that matter.

Because it is still the female who has this, not the male. Because the male could later just blame the female as they do anyhow.
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I'm not suggesting guilt... guilt comes from within one's own conscience as a result of self-judgement. Consequences can be positive... or negative. What I was trying to convey is that people need to realize that their choices do carry consequences... and that they should evaluate the potential consequences when making their decision.... that a decision like abortion should never be made lightly... it is serious and does carry consequences regardless of the choice made.
so angry I could spit
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:28 PM)
Have you all heard of the Putting Prevention First Act?
From Hillary's January 24th speech:
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yeah, the anti-choicers attacked her for it. she's disengenuous in their opinion.
Mass
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:28 PM)
Have you all heard of the Putting Prevention First Act?
From Hillary's January 24th speech:
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http://thomas.loc.gov/cgi-bin/query/F?c109...~c109Bgav15:e0:
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S. 20

To expand access to preventive health care services that help reduce unintended pregnancy, reduce the number of abortions, and improve access to women's health care.

IN THE SENATE OF THE UNITED STATES

January 24, 2005

Mr. REID (for himself, Mrs. MURRAY, Mr. SCHUMER, Mr. CORZINE, Mr. LAUTENBERG, Mrs. CLINTON, Mr. KERRY, Mrs. FEINSTEIN, Ms. CANTWELL, Mr. HARKIN, Ms. MIKULSKI, Mr. INOUYE, Mr. AKAKA, Mr. LEVIN, Mr. KENNEDY, Mr. LEAHY, Mr. WYDEN, and Ms. STABENOW) introduced the following bill; which was read twice and referred to the Committee on Health, Education, Labor, and Pensions

A BILL

To expand access to preventive health care services that help reduce unintended pregnancy, reduce the number of abortions, and improve access to women's health care.
Beamer
QUOTE(so angry I could spit @ Feb 11 2005, 03:37 PM)
yeah, the anti-choicers attacked her for it.  she's disengenuous in their opinion.
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You know what it is? It's because they think she's promoting "safe sex." The religious right thinks that the bill promotes immorality and promiscuity. In fact, I think that there is a large proportion of the anti-choice people who are against abortion because they think it promotes promiscuity.
kindergarten teacher
graham4anything I almost lost interest in this topic until you just chimed in with this one. Are you an older woman like myself? I get irritated with the framing of this issue and the philosophical crap. Furthermore I would like this same topic reposted for women to hash it out. As a teacher in a predominately poor hispanic Catholic demographic public school, I have listened to laments of mothers who were faced with this decision. They already have more children than they can afford, their husbands refuse to allow birth control, their religion tells them no, and many of them cannot even vote as they are not citizens. They turn to their female relatives for help and sometimes us teachers. This is a womens issue!

QUOTE(graham4anything @ Feb 11 2005, 03:31 PM)
I don't like the

living with the consequences of ones own actions

You put future guilt into the equation, which should not be there.

That could have harmful effects if one has an abortion. Same with
an adoption for that matter.

Because it is still the female who has this, not the male. Because the male could later just blame the female as they do anyhow.
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graham4anything
QUOTE(Mass @ Feb 11 2005, 06:41 PM)


At least it will be on the record. Make them come out against it.

(but religious leaders do not want any of this being talked about, so odds of it getting passed are probably zero.)

I really don't like things like this though, they have a way of backfiring when one
least expects it
teacher731
you'll never come to common ground on abortion, as hillary now seems to believe. My statement on this is simple: don't like abortion, don't have one! Very simple. Now, let's work on substantive issues such as why we have a high rate of children living in homeless shelters, an exit strategy for Iraq, fair elections in the US, preserving free speech in a repressive regime, fighting a real war against terror, and admitting our "war on drugs" is an utter failure and we need to focus on cutting demand and rehab. Nuff said on abortion.
graham4anything
QUOTE(kindergarten teacher @ Feb 11 2005, 06:46 PM)
graham4anything I almost lost interest in this topic until you just chimed in with this one.  Are you an older woman like myself?  I get irritated with the framing of this issue and the philosophical crap.  Furthermore I would like this same topic reposted for women to hash it out.  As a teacher in a predominately poor hispanic Catholic demographic public school, I have listened to laments of mothers who were faced with this decision.  They already have more children than they can afford, their husbands refuse to allow birth control, their religion tells them no, and many of them cannot even vote as they are not citizens.  They turn to their female relatives for help and sometimes us teachers.  This is a womens issue!
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No, I am not. Believe it or not, I am a male, who has been around awhile,
although from my view on abortion you would not think so. I believe most males do not understand this issue especially the ones against it and those in public always tend to be males and that has always irritated me
Beamer
QUOTE(teacher731 @ Feb 11 2005, 03:49 PM)
you'll never come to common ground on abortion, as hillary now seems to believe.  My statement on this is simple:  don't like abortion, don't have one!  Very simple.  Now, let's work on substantive issues such as why we have a high rate of children living in homeless shelters, an exit strategy for Iraq, fair elections in the US, preserving free speech in a repressive regime, fighting a real war against terror, and admitting our "war on drugs" is an utter failure and we need to focus on cutting demand and rehab.  Nuff said on abortion.
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Abortion is one of many issues that Democrats need to talk about in a way that defangs the Republican right's depiction of the Democratic Party as the party of licentious sex and abortion.
graham4anything
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:55 PM)
Abortion is one of many issues that Democrats need to talk about in a way that defangs the Republican right's depiction of the Democratic Party as the party of licentious sex and abortion.
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beamer-trouble too is, heaven help us if it comes out at the most inopportune time
that one of our 2008 candidates had a girlfriend/wife in their past who had an abortion.(which is why I say we have to be dirty like them and fish out anything we can find.)
This is one issue where Hillary being a woman can talk easier about...but as just about every candidate is in the baby boomer era age, for a democratic candidate to talk moralistic just does not ring true.
NiteOwl
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 05:55 PM)
Abortion is one of many issues that Democrats need to talk about in a way that defangs the Republican right's depiction of the Democratic Party as the party of licentious sex and abortion.
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Right you are beamer...

One of the GOP's most cherished divisive issues and one of the most sharply dividing. If we could put this one to bed, or at least take the rhetoric down a couple of notches, it would change the political landscape.
so angry I could spit
QUOTE(graham4anything @ Feb 11 2005, 06:31 PM)
I don't like the

living with the consequences of ones own actions

You put future guilt into the equation, which should not be there.

That could have harmful effects if one has an abortion. Same with
an adoption for that matter.

Because it is still the female who has this, not the male. Because the male could later just blame the female as they do anyhow.
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If you go check the comments from Annie at my blog, you'll see that pro choice advocates (not the bf, unless he forced her to have an abortion as so many of them do) seem to cause the problems for those who make the mistake of terminating and our arguments prevent those who made the mistake of terminating admit it's a mistake:
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I'm one of those hundreds of thousands of women who now regret my abortion and wish I could go back in time and throw away all that I have if I could just change what I did? And there ARE hundreds of thousands of us. Probably tens of millions, but most can't come out and admit their grief and regret, because of arguments such as yours.

According to this woman and her fan base, women are victims in abortion and the pro-choice movement is not protecting our right to privacy and ability to make personal medical decision, we are protecting abortion. They also claim that in demanding reproductive rights were are only exercising our right to avoid parenthood (she forgets, there's no unalienable right to procreate - that's a matter of biology). .. they don't understand we may or may not want to have children, reproductive rights allow us to delay/prevent pregnancy not just terminate it; they allow us the right to have a healthy pregnancy if/when we become pregnant and they allow us not to be forced into getting pregnant against our will - but that doesn't matter.


Pro-Responsibility: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions

The freedom of choice... and the responsibility of that choice should rest with the individual. This also carries with it the responsibility for ones actions.... having sex, use of birth control, being educated, seeking alternatives, considering the potential life that is being carried, living with the consequences of ones own actions and decisions, bearing the burden both emotionally and financially.

Responsibility. I'm all for it.


Pro-Responsibility: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions

We pledge to ensure that abortion is Safe, Legal and Rare, and that this goal is achievable. Decrease demand by improving education and contraception. Discourage those who are still too young, vulnerable and emotionally immature from engaging in sexually intimate activities that put them at risk for too many things (both physical and emotional). Encourage partnerships between Women's Health Clinics, adoption agencies and Family Health Clinics/Social Workers in order to support women and children at risk. We support this because it's right, not for political expedience.

Responsible People Make Thoughtful & Responsible Decisions

Mass
INtereting message from NARAL concerning Prevention First Act.



http://www.prochoiceamerica.org/takeaction...fm&PageID=16398

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A MESSAGE TO THE
RIGHT‐TO‐LIFE MOVEMENT FROM
NARAL PRO‐CHOICE AMERICA

PLEASE, HELP US PREVENT ABORTIONS

For years, your groups and ours have waged one of the country’s most divisive political wars over a woman’s right to choose. We believe passionately that women have the right to decide for themselves when to bring children into the world – without government interference. You disagree – passionately and sincerely.

We will never resolve our differences on this basic question. But we should agree on an equally fundamental point: America would be a better country if no woman ever faced the difficult choices posed by an unintended pregnancy. What better way to end the debate over abortion rights than by eliminating the reasons women seek abortion?

The time has come to join together in a new campaign to reduce the number of abortions. Senate Minority Leader Harry Reid – who disagrees with us on the issue of abortion – has offered a commonsense bill called the Prevention First Act which would help reduce unintended pregnancies through better access to birth control. This landmark legislation represents a serious first step in addressing the problem, and I hope you’ll join pro‐choice Americans and me in offering your support.

Let’s work together to pass this bill, and make it the first step in a dialogue about preventing unintended pregnancies.

I eagerly await your answer.

Nancy Keenan
President
NARAL Pro‐Choice America
Beamer
QUOTE(NiteOwl @ Feb 11 2005, 03:58 PM)
Right you are beamer...

One of the GOP's most cherished divisive issues and one of the most sharply dividing.  If we could put this one to bed, or at least take the rhetoric down a couple of notches, it would change the political landscape.
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I agree. Like this Putting Prevention First Act, the religious right claims that the sole purpose of this act is to promote condom use! Yeah, right! They don't want unmarried people having sex, so they don't want condoms to be readily available, even though condoms prevent sexually transmitted diseases and help to prevent pregnancy.
Acebass
QUOTE(NiteOwl @ Feb 11 2005, 05:41 PM)
Another suggestion might be...

Pro-Responsibility.

The freedom of choice... and the responsibility of that choice should rest with the individual.  This also carries with it the responsibility for ones actions.... having sex, use of birth control, being educated, seeking alternatives, considering the potential life that is being carried, living with the consequences of ones own actions and decisions, bearing the burden both emotionally and financially. 

Responsibility.  I'm all for it.
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Don't ever think that those woman who have the abortions don't bear the responsibility. We paint a picture of these women as tramps, sluts, whores. just having uncontroled sex because they know that if worse comes to worse they can abort and not worry about the conseqences.
It may surprise you to know these women have feelings. They may even be your next door neighbor, a younglady in church, or a co-worker. They know what they've done, and some bear the scares their whole life. Thats the cost to the woman who makes that decision. They pay when they walk past a play ground and see the children playing, and don't think they don't feel anything when they see a mother and child together.
I had a friend who feel in love with a loser, a real scumbag, and sad to say an ex-friend of mine. She made a mistake and one night she gave in, she got pregnant. Shortly after he shipped off back to New Jersey, and she was left , young, pregnant and alone. In desperation she had an abortion. That was over thirty years ago and it haunts her to this day, so don't ever think they don't bear the responsibility.
MrBlueSky2004
For years upon years, the Democratic Party and those favoring abortion-on-demand have insisted that the entity being dystroyed in an abortion is not human. Has this viewpoint changed? If the entity is not human, why is it such a priority that abortion be rare? If it is human...well, that question ought be obvious....
Beamer
QUOTE(so angry I could spit @ Feb 11 2005, 04:01 PM)
If you go check the comments from Annie at my blog, you'll see that pro choice advocates (not the bf, unless he forced her to have an abortion as so many of them do) seem to cause the problems for those who make the mistake of terminating and our arguments prevent those who made the mistake of terminating admit it's a mistake:

According to this woman and her fan base, women are victims in abortion and the pro-choice movement is not protecting our right to privacy and ability to make personal medical decision, we are protecting abortion.  They also claim that in demanding reproductive rights were are only exercising our right to avoid parenthood (she forgets, there's no unalienable right to procreate - that's a matter of biology). .. they don't understand we may or may not want to have children, reproductive rights allow us to delay/prevent pregnancy not just terminate it; they allow us the right to have a healthy pregnancy if/when we become pregnant and they allow us not to be forced into getting pregnant against our will - but that doesn't matter.


Pro-Responsibility: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions

The freedom of choice... and the responsibility of that choice should rest with the individual.  This also carries with it the responsibility for ones actions.... having sex, use of birth control, being educated, seeking alternatives, considering the potential life that is being carried, living with the consequences of ones own actions and decisions, bearing the burden both emotionally and financially.

Responsibility.  I'm all for it.


Pro-Responsibility: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions

We pledge to ensure that abortion is Safe, Legal and Rare, and that this goal is achievable. Decrease demand by improving education and contraception. Discourage those who are still too young, vulnerable and emotionally immature from engaging in sexually intimate activities that put them at risk for too many things (both physical and emotional). Encourage partnerships between Women's Health Clinics, adoption agencies and Family Health Clinics/Social Workers in order to support women and children at risk.  We  support this because it's right, not for political expedience.

Responsible People Make Thoughtful & Responsible Decisions


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I don't think I understand your point by posting the quote by "Annie." She regrets having had an abortion. Are you saying that someone coerced her into having one?

I know many women who have regrets and emotional scars from having abortions. However, even with these regrets, they think they did the right thing. This just shows that it's not an easy decision. Women who don't feel some sense of regret or loss are in denial, in my opinion.
graham4anything
QUOTE(Acebass @ Feb 11 2005, 07:08 PM)
Don't ever think that those woman who have the abortions don't bear the responsibility. We paint a picture of these women as tramps, sluts, whores. just having uncontroled sex because they know that if worse comes to worse they can abort and not worry about the conseqences.
It may surprise you to know these women have feelings. They may even be your next door neighbor, a younglady in church, or a co-worker. They know what they've done, and some bear the scares their whole life. Thats the cost to the woman who makes that decision. They pay when they walk past a play ground and see the children playing, and don't think they don't feel anything when they see a mother and child together.
I had a friend who feel in love with a loser, a real scumbag, and sad to say an ex-friend of mine. She made a mistake and one night she gave in, she got pregnant. Shortly after he shipped off back to New Jersey, and she was left , young, pregnant and alone. In desperation she had an abortion. That was over thirty years ago and it haunts her to this day, so don't ever think they don't bear the responsibility.
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and every woman that had their up for adoption, and every woman that had a still birth or a medical problem that caused the baby to die, and every parent that lost a child due to whatever...and every person who ever had someone die they knew...
We cannot let emotion come into it. It is hard enough...

a free and legal right to choice is for every girl that got butchered in a back alley when it was illegal, and for those with a medical reason, who were raped, etc...
It is legal.

does one ask someone who buys a six pack of beer what problems they have that they need to buy a six pack of beer?
NiteOwl
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:04 PM)
I agree.  Like this Putting Prevention First Act, the religious right claims that the sole purpose of this act is to promote condom use!  Yeah, right!  They don't want unmarried people having sex, so they don't want condoms to be readily available, even though condoms prevent sexually transmitted diseases and help to prevent pregnancy.
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This is one of the things that I find most frustrating about the right with regard to this issue. They don't want the abortions... yet they don't want anyone telling kids about birth control. They live in some deluded state of reality where they believe that they can dictate behavior through law.

They need to face the reality of the situation and determine which is the lesser of the two evils (not the best choice of words.... but it fits). Do they prefer to minimize the number of abortions through promoting responsible behavior, or do they want to stick their head in the sand and allow irresponsible behavior that results in more unwanted pregnancies ?

It seems to me that THEY are the ones who are being irresponsible in this case.
They need to face reality and the fact that people are not going to live their lives in the manner that THEY desire.

Responsible actions lead to responsible results. That is why WE should be promoting Responsibility.
billfmsd
I'm lost. I've read the posts, and I'm still lost. I don't see what's the problem with Pro-Responsibility. It doesn't say that the women is responsible for getting pregnant. It's says that the women takes responsibility for the choice from the right to choose. It's not for the man or government to understand.

What is the problem?
MrBlueSky2004
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It doesn't say that the women is responsible for getting pregnant.


Pray tell, how does a women, except in cases of rape, not bear partial (key word there, partial) responsibiltiy for getting pregnant?
billfmsd
QUOTE(NiteOwl @ Feb 11 2005, 06:16 PM)
This is one of the things that I find most frustrating about the right with regard to this issue.  They don't want the abortions... yet they don't want anyone telling kids about birth control.  They live in some deluded state of reality where they believe that they can dictate behavior through law. 

They need to face the reality of the situation and determine which is the lesser of the two evils (not the best choice of words.... but it fits).  Do they prefer to minimize the number of abortions through promoting responsible behavior, or do they want to stick their head in the sand and allow irresponsible behavior that results in more unwanted pregnancies ?

It seems to me that THEY are the ones who are being irresponsible in this case.
They need to face reality and the fact that people are not going to live their lives in the manner that THEY desire.

Responsible actions lead to responsible results.  That is why WE should be promoting Responsibility.
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This is beautiful. Pro-Responsibility has triple meaning.

1) It says women use their right to choose responsibly.
2) It says that those who don't have the right to choose are not responsible.
3) It says that those who oppose the right to choose are being irresponsible.
billfmsd
QUOTE(MrBlueSky2004 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:21 PM)
Pray tell, how does a women, except in cases of rape, not bear partial (key word there, partial) responsibiltiy for getting pregnant?
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Pro-Responsibility doesn't assume either because it is about the right to choose after the fact. We already know that responsibility needs to be exercise before getting pregnant. The key here is it forces the opponents, of the right to choose, consider the exceptions.
NiteOwl
QUOTE(Acebass @ Feb 11 2005, 06:08 PM)
Don't ever think that those woman who have the abortions don't bear the responsibility. We paint a picture of these women as tramps, sluts, whores. just having uncontroled sex because they know that if worse comes to worse they can abort and not worry about the conseqences.
It may surprise you to know these women have feelings. They may even be your next door neighbor, a younglady in church, or a co-worker. They know what they've done, and some bear the scares their whole life. Thats the cost to the woman who makes that decision. They pay when they walk past a play ground and see the children playing, and don't think they don't feel anything when they see a mother and child together.
I had a friend who feel in love with a loser, a real scumbag, and sad to say an ex-friend of mine. She made a mistake and one night she gave in, she got pregnant. Shortly after he shipped off back to New Jersey, and she was left , young, pregnant and alone. In desperation she had an abortion. That was over thirty years ago and it haunts her to this day, so don't ever think they don't bear the responsibility.
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I think you are reading more into my words or taking them slightly out of context.

Of course the women you speak of have borne the responsibility... or more aptly... burden in some cases. And THAT is precisely why people need to understand their responsibilities BEFORE they engage in sex without birth control.

I am not painting any "picture"... merely suggesting that we educate people as to the fact that they ARE responsible for their actions and that those actions do carry consequences... irreversible consequences... that they have to live with no matter what their choice may be. The weight of that responsibility may in turn bring more responsible actions.

I'm not condemning anyone for the choices they have made. Guilt is a terrible thing and I feel for those faced with such a decsion... both in having to make such a decision AND in living with that decision afterward. If we can impress upon the youth the weight of the responsibility in making decisions to prevent unwanted pregnancies maybe we can help prevent the far greater pain that comes with having to face that situation.
Acebass
QUOTE(Mac2 @ Feb 11 2005, 04:25 PM)
Three things:

    1. The opposite of pro-life is not pro-death, its pro-choice. There is no "pro-        death"

    2.You can not reasonably be pro-life and pro-choice.

      3. We don't get to define pro-life or pro-choice anymore than we get to
          define our own arithemetic.

  What you say will merely obfuscate the issue.
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Thats your opinion, and your welcome to it.
so angry I could spit
QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 07:12 PM)
I don't think I understand your point by posting the quote by "Annie."  She regrets having had an abortion.  Are you saying that someone coerced her into having one? 

I know many women who have regrets and emotional scars from having abortions.  However, even with these regrets, they think they did the right thing.  This just shows that it's not an easy decision.  Women who don't feel some sense of regret or loss are in denial, in my opinion.
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She's actually claiming the majority of abortions of convenience are done by women who are forced/coerced into abortions because they are confused and that the pro-choice movement encourages this victimization of women. She doesn't just think she did worng, she tells me she's sorry that I made the wrong decision (I'm just too indoctrinated to understand that "being sick" isn't an excuse for murdering a baby). There's a cult of them, ranging ftom those with "recovered memories" of being forced into their abortions, to women who claim they wouldn't have terminated if PP had encouraged them to consider adoption (or at least discussed the option more) and actively discouraged them from terminating. They see themselves (and all women) as victims of the pro-choice movement and abortion; if it weren't an option, let alone an acceptable one, there wouldn't be abortions. According to her, few women don't regret their decision and think they made a mistake, I guess we don't talk about ours because we're hiding our shame.
MrBlueSky2004
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Pro-Responsibility doesn't assume either because it is about the right to choose after the fact. We already know that responsibility needs to be exercise before getting pregnant. The key here is it forces the opponents, of the right to choose, consider the exceptions.


Ok, I appreciate the clarification, but "after the fact" honestly is not the best time to have to make this sort of choice. Now, while I strongly oppose abortion (execpt to save a mothers life), I will agree with what others are saying that education is KEY and education really ought emphize "before the fact" rather than after-ie, inform folks of risks and methods to avoid those risks (birth control is one of those methods).

On the purely political side, I think the Democrats are going to run into problems if they now start implicitly agreeing that abortion dystroys a human life and yet continue to legal advocate abortion on demand. There appears to be a huge contradiction here that is not lost on most folks. Trying to win over those against abortion on demand is going to prove exeedingly difficult with this approach, in my humble opinion*.

*which has been wrong before, mind you.
so angry I could spit
How about this (too preachy)?



Pro-Responsibility: Responsible People Making Responsible Decisions

Reproductive rights guarantee us the freedom to become a parent, or not; to use contraception should we chose to engage in sexual activity and prevent pregnancy; to take prophylactic measures to prevent spread of communicable disease; to make informed and thoughtful decisions about our lives and to consent, or not, in private, in accordance with our personal beliefs without government intervention. These aren't just rights, they're responsibiities as well: the responsibility to educate yourself about how your body works, how to prevent disease and how to avoid unintended pregnancy; the responsibility to learn about all your options should you face the one of the consequences of sexual activity and the potential long-term ramifications of any decision you make.

Sexual intimacy is the domain of those mature enough to be responsible and held accountable for things that may occur after the moment has passed. Learn, think & act accordingly.

Responsibility. I'm all for it.
Indianhead
QUOTE(Mac2 @ Feb 11 2005, 08:43 AM)
Abortion really is an issue where there is no compromise. If you believe otherwise, go to any coffee house and discuss it with 10 people; you would see what I meant.
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Wow! 12 pages of opinion on this thread.
Perhaps the most ever?
I must admit I skimmed most, stopping
to read Mac2 mostly.

We should be able to agree abortion is a tragic
event
, not matter that as a man I have no
business telling a woman what she should do.

I'm pretty simple. All women should have the same
choices, not matter their incomes. I pray they will
deal with reproductive functions prior to pregnancy.

If not, the women, their clergy, their confidants,
and God should influence them. We should not
put a firewall on women, but this country may well
determine a watershed period after which abortion
will become illegal. As liberal as I am on most issues,
late term abortion and partial birth abortion greatly
offend me.
Mac2 provides a valuable service
with his opinion. May we agree to disagree? And accept
the fact that many (as Mac2 says) will have strong, varied opinions?
graham4anything
QUOTE(MrBlueSky2004 @ Feb 11 2005, 07:34 PM)
Ok, I appreciate the clarification, but "after the fact" honestly is not the best time to have to make this sort of choice.  Now, while I strongly oppose abortion (execpt to save a mothers life), I will agree with what others are saying that education is KEY and education really ought emphize "before the fact" rather than after-ie, inform folks of risks and methods to avoid those risks (birth control is one of those methods). 

On the purely political side, I think the Democrats are going to run into problems if they now start implicitly agreeing that abortion dystroys a human life and yet continue to legal advocate abortion on demand.  There appears to be a huge contradiction here that is not lost on most folks.  Trying to win over those against abortion on demand is going to prove exeedingly difficult with this approach, in my humble opinion*.

*which has been wrong before, mind you.
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nobody is saying it destroys a human life, there has been NO change.
Life starts at birth.
Beamer
QUOTE(so angry I could spit @ Feb 11 2005, 04:32 PM)
She's actually claiming the majority of abortions of convenience are done by women who are forced/coerced into abortions because they are confused and that the pro-choice movement encourages this victimization of women.  She doesn't just think she did worng, she tells me she's sorry that I made the wrong decision (I'm just too indoctrinated to understand that "being sick" isn't an excuse for murdering a baby).  There's a cult of them, ranging ftom those with "recovered memories" of being forced into their abortions, to women who claim they wouldn't have terminated if PP had encouraged them to consider adoption (or at least discussed the option more) and actively discouraged them from terminating.  They see themselves (and all women) as victims of the pro-choice movement and abortion; if it weren't an option, let alone an acceptable one, there wouldn't be abortions.  According to her, few women don't regret their decision and think they made a mistake, I guess we don't talk about ours because we're hiding our shame.
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Talk about not taking responsibility! Do these women want to play victim for the rest of their lives? This is like saying, "The devil made me do it."
so angry I could spit
QUOTE(Indianhead @ Feb 11 2005, 07:34 PM)
but this country may well
determine a watershed period after which abortion
will become illegal. As liberal as I am on most issues,
late term abortion and partial birth abortion greatly
offend me.
Mac2 provides a valuable service
with his opinion. May we agree to disagree? And accept
the fact that many (as Mac2 says) will have strong, varied opinions?
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QUOTE
Reproductive laws Romania 1966-1984
Laws could be changed to restrict access to contraception and limit abortion to: pregnancy that is imminently life-threatening to the mother; pregnancy resulting from rape or incest; one parent suffered from a serious hereditary disease or a disease likely to cause serious congenital malformations; the pregnant woman suffered from a serious physical, mental, or sensory disorder; advanced maternal over age 45; or the pregnant woman had given birth to at least four children that were under her care. Except in the case of a life-threatening situation, abortions will have to be approved by a medical board and be performed in the first trimester in a specialized unit. Women who obtain illegal abortions, and those who perform them, will be subject to fines and imprisonment.

Additionally all women of reproductive age will be required to undergo regular gynecological examinations at their place of employment. Pregnant women will be monitored until delivery, doctors were required to report all women who became pregnant and gynecological wards were under continuous surveillance. Investigations will be carried out to determine the cause of all miscarriages.


In some ways Ceacescu's laws were more liberal than those posed by the right, the second paragraph are the ways they are more strict. We will start with:

limit abortion to: pregnancy that is imminently life-threatening to the mother; pregnancy resulting from rape or incest and will have to be approved by a medical board and be performed in a specialized unit. Those who perform illegal abortions will be subject to fines and imprisonment. (eventually, women who are not well connected will probably have to prove they are not pregnant prior to leaving the country; if in early pregnancy, they will probably be prevented from leaving the country or will face fines if they are not pregnant when they return).

We will later restrict contraception and, based on the initial proposal to miscarriage reporting in VA the following will be added within 10 years of the initial outlawing of abortion: all women of reproductive age will be required to undergo regular gynecological examinations at their place of employment. Pregnant women will be monitored until delivery, doctors were required to report all women who became pregnant and gynecological wards were under continuous surveillance. Investigations will be carried out to determine the cause of all miscarriages.

QUOTE(beamer619 @ Feb 11 2005, 07:37 PM)
Talk about not taking responsibility!  Do these women want to play victim for the rest of their lives?  This is like saying, "The devil made me do it."
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They don't see it that way. They are seeking redemption by fighting immoral groups like us and trying to re-educate women like me who've been indoctrinated. When we don't capitulate it's because we just don't listen and don't want to know.
billfmsd
QUOTE(MrBlueSky2004 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:34 PM)
Ok, I appreciate the clarification, but "after the fact" honestly is not the best time to have to make this sort of choice.  Now, while I strongly oppose abortion (execpt to save a mothers life), I will agree with what others are saying that education is KEY and education really ought emphize "before the fact" rather than after-ie, inform folks of risks and methods to avoid those risks (birth control is one of those methods). 
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The pro-life/pro-choice positions are both "after the fact" positions. That's why I think Pro-Responsibility is the best "after the fact" position.

It can also be viewed as a "before-the-fact" position, but that would be more of a promise from the women more than a preaching to the women. Even if some thinks it is preaching to women, it could only work in favor of those preaching.

That's why Liberal/Progressives should adopt the position. It works as both a moral high ground "pervention" position and an "after the fact" position.
Beamer
QUOTE
Abortion and contraception have been widely available throughout the history of Western Civilization, despite ethical concerns. Plato and Aristotle both argued in favor of compulsory abortion under certain circumstances, though Hippocrates expressly disapproved of the practice. Under Roman law, life was said to begin at birth. Abortions were thus legal, though regulated to protect the rights of the father. References to abortion were included in the writings of Ovid, Seneca, Juvenal and Pliny, who included a list of abortifacients (drugs that induce an abortion) in one text. Early Christian philosophers, including St. Augustine, Ivo of Chartres and Gratian, disapproved of abortion when it broke the link between the sexual act and procreation, but argued that abortion of what Ivo termed an 'unformed embryo' did not constitute homicide.

Religious authorities have taken various positions on abortion throughout history (see Religion and abortion). In 1588, Pope Sixtus V adopted a papal bull adopting the position of St. Thomas Aquinas that contraception and abortion were crimes against nature and sins against marriage. This verdict was relaxed three years later by Pope Gregory XIV, who pronounced that abortion before 'hominization' should not be subject to church penalties that were any stricter than civil penalties. Common law positions on abortion in individual countries varied significantly from country to country. English common law considered abortions before 'quickening' - when the movements of the fetus could first be felt by the mother - to be morally and legally acceptable.

Many Western countries began to make abortion illegal in the 19th century. Anti-abortion forces were led by a combination of conservative groups opposed to abortion on moral grounds and medical professionals who were concerned about the danger presented by the procedure and the regular involvement of non-medical personnel in performing abortions.

It became clear in the following years, however, that illegal abortions continued to take place in large numbers even where abortions were expressly illegal. It was difficult to obtain sufficient evidence to prosecute the mothers and doctors, and judges and juries were often reluctant to convict. Many were also outraged at the invasion of privacy and the medical problems resulting from abortions taking place illegally in medically dangerous circumstances. Political movements soon coalesced around the legalization of abortion and liberalization of existing laws.

By the early 20th century, many countries had begun to legalize abortions when performed to protect the life of the mother, and in some cases to protect the health of the mother. Under Vladimir Lenin, the Soviet Union legalized all abortions in 1920, but this was fully reversed in 1936 by Joseph Stalin in order to increase population growth. Iceland was the first Western country to legalize therapeutic abortion under limited circumstances, doing so in 1935, and the earliest country to do so without recriminalizing it later. Only a handful of countries - mostly in Scandinavia decriminalized abortion before Britain in 1967. Others soon followed, including Canada (1969), the United States (1973 in most states), France (1975), West Germany (1976), New Zealand (1977), Italy (1978) and the Netherlands (1980).



Abortions have been performed for a long time. Even Plato and Aristotle weighed in on it.
MrBlueSky2004
QUOTE
nobody is saying it destroys a human life, there has been NO change.
Life starts at birth.


Then why is it best that abortion be so rare? I really am curious, as in my mind there is a logical contradiction here.
graham4anything
QUOTE(Indianhead @ Feb 11 2005, 07:34 PM)
Wow! 12 pages of opinion on this thread.
Perhaps the most ever?
I must admit I skimmed most, stopping
to read Mac2 mostly.

We should be able to agree abortion is a tragic
event
, not matter that as a man I have no
business telling a woman what she should do.

I'm pretty simple. All women should have the same
choices, not matter their incomes. I pray they will
deal with reproductive functions prior to pregnancy.

If not, the women, their clergy, their confidants,
and God should influence them. We should not
put a firewall on women, but this country may well
determine a watershed period after which abortion
will become illegal. As liberal as I am on most issues,
late term abortion and partial birth abortion greatly
offend me.
Mac2 provides a valuable service
with his opinion. May we agree to disagree? And accept
the fact that many (as Mac2 says) will have strong, varied opinions?
*



You are falling for republican spin.
Late term/partial birth are no issue at all.
They happen less than a dozen times a year, and ALL of them basically are due to a medical emergency.
It is a non-issue the right has let people fall for.

Matter of fact, if the right would not have put some restrictions in, normal abortions would be done even sooner.

And if the LEGAL pills available for the day after were widely available, without embarrassment, it would probalby mean the end of what is known as abortion.
billfmsd
QUOTE(MrBlueSky2004 @ Feb 11 2005, 06:55 PM)
QUOTE(graham4anything @ Feb 11 2005, 06:36 PM)

nobody is saying it destroys a human life, there has been NO change.
Life starts at birth.
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Then why is it best that abortion be so rare?  I really am curious, as in my mind there is a logical contradiction here.
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It's not a logical contradiction, it's a conflict in terminology.
Acebass
QUOTE(NiteOwl @ Feb 11 2005, 07:27 PM)
I think you are reading more into my words or taking them slightly out of context.

Of course the women you speak of have borne the responsibility... or more aptly... burden in some cases.  And THAT is precisely why people need to understand their responsibilities BEFORE they engage in sex without birth control. 

I am not painting any "picture"... merely suggesting that we educate people as to the fact that they ARE responsible for their actions and that those actions do carry consequences... irreversible consequences... that they have to live with no matter what their choice may be.  The weight of that responsibility may in turn bring more responsible actions.

I'm not  condemning anyone for the choices they have made.  Guilt is a terrible thing and I feel for those faced with such a decsion... both in having to make such a decision AND in living with that decision afterward.  If we can impress upon the youth the weight of the responsibility in making decisions to prevent unwanted pregnancies maybe we can help prevent the far greater pain that comes with having to face that situation.
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Your right, I agree. It just seemed the right time to put a human face on the women we were talking about.
Thats seems to be the problem with this debate. We neglect to put a human face on things anymore. We are so wrapped up in statistics that we forget about both the mother and the baby. It's a hard choice, abortion. It will probably never be decided one way or the other, thats why I hate that it has become the political football that it has. This should be between a young woman and her doctor. Yet we have allowed it to be used and abused, much like other hot button issues, to divide us.
Perhaps if we put more of a human face to this issue, and tell the storys people might learn to enjoy wise, safe sex and yes take responsibility for their actions. Maybe we'll be able to achieve our goals Safe, Accessible and Rare!Now there's a bumper sticker.

You and I see eye to eye, no problem here.
MrBlueSky2004
QUOTE
They happen less than a dozen times a year, and ALL of them basically are due to a medical emergency.
It is a non-issue the right has let people fall for.

Matter of fact, if the right would not have put some restrictions in, normal abortions would be done even sooner.


A dozen? Any source for this statistic or for the other claims youve made? Just curious...thanks.
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